The transition from partner to parent can sometimes be a little difficult. Whilst you may be aware of the benefits of breastfeeding you may experience a feeling of being ‘left out’.

However, your support is crucial to the success of breastfeeding. This is a new experience for all of you and may require a little time to adjust.

10 Tips

1. Discuss your thoughts and feelings about breastfeeding.

2. Try and attend a breastfeeding workshop with your partner so that you can pick up tips and understand techniques.

3. Encourage your partner and reassure her, let her know how proud you are of her and that she is giving your baby a healthy start in life. Don’t forget the health benefits to Mum too.

4. Sit with her when she feeds, check she has got baby well attached. Stroke baby and talk to him/her.

5. Make sure Mum is comfy maybe get her a drink and snack, mums often feel thirsty when they feed.

6. Enjoy time skin to skin with your baby. You do not need to feed your baby to form a close loving bond with them.

7. Spend time with your baby, develop your expertise in settling baby, burping baby, bathing, taking baby out. This all helps build your relationship with your baby and gives mum a chance to relax.

8. Enjoy time together as a new family getting to know each other. Protect her from opinions that may not be helpful. Keep visitors at bay for a while unless they are bringing lunch!

9. Try to maintain the standards at home with the household chores, try to avoid her becoming anxious that the house is a ‘mess’ as she will not be able to relax and feed baby.

10. If you are concerned that breastfeeding will affect your intimate relationship, be patient, breastfeeding isn’t going to be forever!

Breastfeeding will give your grandchild the best possible start in life and it’s good for mums too. Breastfeeding is the start to forming a strong attachment and is much more than just providing nutrients, it is the start of a loving secure relationship. Breastmilk provides your grandchild with natural protection from infections:

- diarrhoea, vomiting , chest and ear infections

- they are less likely to be obese or develop eczema or diabetes in childhood

Breastfeeding benefits mums as well:

- mums who breastfeed reduce their risk of breast and ovarian cancer

- are less likely to develop osteoporosis.

Breastfeeding is also cheaper, saving time and money.

Because of the numerous health benefits more and more mothers are choosing to breastfeed their babies.

Infant formula milk is often thought to be the same as breastmilk but breastmilk contains unique substances that help protect the baby. These unique substances are not found in formula milk.

How can you help?

New parents are often anxious and need to be able to talk to someone who will listen with interest, without giving advice or judging.

Breastfed babies feeding pattern is very different from a formula fed babies. So frequent feeding is expected, so reassure Mum that this is normal and that baby may need feeding at least 8 -12 times in 24hours.

You may be concerned that baby is getting enough breastmilk; they only have small tummies so feeding frequently is normal. Baby should be content for short periods after feeds. The number of wet and dirty nappies is important, six heavy wet nappies from day six and two stools yellow soft consistency, it is not diarrhoea. This is a good indicator that they are getting enough milk and they will gain weight.

You will be looking forward to sharing time with your grandchild and may find it frustrating not to be able to help with the feeding. Your offers of babysitting may also be declined as it is difficult for a breastfeeding mum to spend time away from her new baby.

Mum is making a vital investment in your grandchild’s health in the future. So offer your listening ear, support her decision, encourage her if she appears to be struggling, offer practical help cooking and ironing etc.

Remind her of the local support groups or to ask her midwife or health visitor if she has any concerns.

Whether you breastfed or not let mum know how proud you are of her and remember this period is only short, there will be plenty of time to spoil your grandchild.